'Just friends'

[fingertrouble]

Hmm, the weird thing about being over 40 is being in this odd hinterland, being sexually dropped for 'fresh fruit' - amount of bears and older bearded/hairy guys who are only looking for 18-20's aged guys is depressing (given what bears was originally about), and I probably didn't know how unique I was back then...I liked older guys AND wasn't expected to get paid. No wonder they loved me, saved them so much money for rent :-P

Just had the 'just be friends' line via someone who seemed interested but apparently now is only attracted to guys in their 20's, I wished he'd made that clear...

The irony will be is by the time I might be considered eligible again - e.g. 50-60+ 'daddy' type with grey/white beard (already getting close with the latter) and maybe attractive to the late 20's-30's group*, I suspect I might have just given up bothering. :-(


* Unlike these chicken hawk bears, I don't go for that 'student' age group, even though a few have expressed interest out and about I'm always suspecting they might just want my wallet! Nor do I pretend I am younger, or go to the gym, or cut my beard - all things that would 'improve' my chances, but I see no reason to change myself just to shag someone that shallow...what's the saying? My right hand is a better lover? :-P

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Thanks...yeah same with my partner. It just gets a bit hard when no-one else sees it that way, and seem to think their sexual or otherwise relationships only come in a very small restrictive box of likes.

Strange thing: I was told by these people years ago that I was 'wrong' because I was restricting my choices with bearded guys and bearish/older. Some truth to that, but I note with interest as those 'chicken hawks' got past 60 they had a similar problem I am having, despite looking very much that type, they were also being judged...so the 20 year olds thought they were too old!

What goes around...