Goodbye, goodbye

[fingertrouble]

Goodbye to partner #2, John in Cambridge, who couldn't trust me to be not shagging around when I said I wasn't. Even though it was polygamous (yes you can join me all in a WTF?). Someone who had nothing in common except great sex, but had to lose what he had with petty jealousy and insecurities.

Hope you have a nice life; it makes me even more grateful for John #1 now the only person who stuck with me for nearly 14 years without this kind of drama, despite our ups and downs.

A good man, and one I owe so much to, who never did bullshit like this, and never tried to possess me or try to own me, my soulmate and someone who gave me freedom and thus I freely give my love to...because he never played those games. That means so much to me...especially in this moment.

Comments

[fargonrob.livejournal.com]

Glad to hear you and your prime have weathered this and still have each other.

Polyamory is not for everyone, and it is all about trusting each other and understanding yourself. Sounds like #2 lacked some of those qualities.

*HUGS*

[fingertrouble.livejournal.com]

that's why it broke down, trust. If you can't be honest and trust someone you're right it doesn't work.

Also he from the first week (!) was mentioning marriage (partnership) and moving in together, and it never went away despite me patiently pointing out that there was a partner with first call on both of those, we'd just met anyway, and we were totally different people...he was a neat freak and went a bit nuclear last weekend when I visited cos I left water on the floor after a shower...many of those, which both of us pointed to as being reasons for not living together (if it had been possible, or the right time)but still he kept trying to upgrade the relationship.

Sad cos initially from what he said he seemed perfect, not jealous and not crazy...turned out to be a neurotic neat freak with trust issues and a bad temper...*sigh*

I've reached the 'glad to be rid' stage as you might have guessed. Sad though.