fingertrouble: HercuUUuuULllEEss (Farnese hercules)
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Goodbye to partner #2, John in Cambridge, who couldn't trust me to be not shagging around when I said I wasn't. Even though it was polygamous (yes you can join me all in a WTF?). Someone who had nothing in common except great sex, but had to lose what he had with petty jealousy and insecurities.

Hope you have a nice life; it makes me even more grateful for John #1 now the only person who stuck with me for nearly 14 years without this kind of drama, despite our ups and downs.

A good man, and one I owe so much to, who never did bullshit like this, and never tried to possess me or try to own me, my soulmate and someone who gave me freedom and thus I freely give my love to...because he never played those games. That means so much to me...especially in this moment.

ugh.

Date: 2010-12-17 05:30 am (UTC)
eskanto: (bad day)
From: [personal profile] eskanto
I'm sorry.

Like you said, though, at least you had it good once, so you know to hold out for better than this. Some guys would have put up with it just to have someone.

But being able to respect and value yourself is more important, in my opinion.

also, WTF at cheating in a poly relationship. How does that work?

Re: ugh.

Date: 2010-12-17 06:20 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fingertrouble.livejournal.com
you're asking me...I started having to explain that my friends were like, uhh, only friends? There was other issues around that, but still jokey comments about 'divorcing' me or cutting my bollocks off if I played with someone else was a little, well, disconcerting...

Re: ugh.

Date: 2010-12-17 06:28 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fingertrouble.livejournal.com
And I think the bloke was actually all kinds of crazy really, I'm much too nice and tolerant when I like someone...his previous relationships all short (few months to a year - at 75?!?), can see why now...

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