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fingertrouble) wrote2009-03-23 01:21 am
fingertrouble) wrote2009-03-23 01:21 am
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Writer's Block: Take Your Chances
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Yes I do - it's not so much 'deserve a chance' which sounds a bit, well, passive-aggressive...but that everyone is allowed to go off the rails every blue moon. Not if they make a habit of it, but if it's a rarity and no lasting damage done then I'd like to be cool with them again.
The one person this is directed at sadly doesn't read my journal anymore. I wish I knew what was up and why a long-term friendship imploded over something so trivial, even if it was my big mouth that probably did it, it was over expressing my opinion over something minor and really a question of taste. I'd have thought a response of 'Oh Tim, shutup , you just don't like X' - a polite/funny shutup comment between friends or an agreement difference of opinion would be fine. Friends shouldn't have to share all interests, or even agree - not have WW3 launched over it when they say they don't like the look of something :-(
Oh well. Very strange...just means I go back to trying to keep my opinion to myself, and posting silly videos, or filtering everything. The latter wouldn't have worked though, this person was on those filters too. If I've known someone a long time I will speak unguardedly and freely, and that's sometimes rarely where the trouble lies - not in being intentionally bitchy but saying something without filtering that accidentally can cause offence - people at this point shout at the screen 'THEN DON'T SAY IT THEN' - but I'm missing that part of the brain that can differentiate it seems. I can't switch on something I don't have.
And the problem is if I totally self-censor then I'd probably go nuts. Been there, done that, had the part-breakdown.
This is why I live alone, you know? Partly originally other reasons, but I'm now comfortable with not having to worry about stuff like this at home. At some point I will become a hermit or a monk, you just watch.
Yes I do - it's not so much 'deserve a chance' which sounds a bit, well, passive-aggressive...but that everyone is allowed to go off the rails every blue moon. Not if they make a habit of it, but if it's a rarity and no lasting damage done then I'd like to be cool with them again.
The one person this is directed at sadly doesn't read my journal anymore. I wish I knew what was up and why a long-term friendship imploded over something so trivial, even if it was my big mouth that probably did it, it was over expressing my opinion over something minor and really a question of taste. I'd have thought a response of 'Oh Tim, shutup , you just don't like X' - a polite/funny shutup comment between friends or an agreement difference of opinion would be fine. Friends shouldn't have to share all interests, or even agree - not have WW3 launched over it when they say they don't like the look of something :-(
Oh well. Very strange...just means I go back to trying to keep my opinion to myself, and posting silly videos, or filtering everything. The latter wouldn't have worked though, this person was on those filters too. If I've known someone a long time I will speak unguardedly and freely, and that's sometimes rarely where the trouble lies - not in being intentionally bitchy but saying something without filtering that accidentally can cause offence - people at this point shout at the screen 'THEN DON'T SAY IT THEN' - but I'm missing that part of the brain that can differentiate it seems. I can't switch on something I don't have.
And the problem is if I totally self-censor then I'd probably go nuts. Been there, done that, had the part-breakdown.
This is why I live alone, you know? Partly originally other reasons, but I'm now comfortable with not having to worry about stuff like this at home. At some point I will become a hermit or a monk, you just watch.
Second Chances
When you know someone and even confide in them it hurts when they reject you for being who you are. I'm afraid that won't stop me from being myself though. Much better than pretending to be someone else!
(End of empathetic rant, for now.)
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Just cutting someone off? Immature and not a friend!
And if you become a hermit/monk?
Dominican... they get knotted belts to whip themselves with... so at least it's fun!
*grin*
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