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fingertrouble) wrote2011-01-13 01:04 am
fingertrouble) wrote2011-01-13 01:04 am
Scruff and stuff
Yes I'm on Scruff...Bearbook, now Scruff...just call me sheep. Baa...well goat, horny goat.
I do have a question though:
If you want to meet 'just for a pint' and not for a shag or romantic reasons, why would my partner be a reason to pull out of said meeting?
I find the strange attitude to partnered people on such sites odd...I mean Scruff like Gaydar (which can be equally weird) isn't called Lovey Fwuffy Wuffy Long Term Partnerkins, it's a site you go to for linking up with shags...or chats/friends. Happy with either...but boyfriend/partner material? Unlikely. So why the 'don't even talk to me unless you're single!' especially when my profile says 'Just here for fun' and also the above person contacted me...I hadn't put my partnered status on my profile yet, I'd just joined...and did so and alerted him to the fact cos he had something about 'if you're a romantic flirty type, don't be partnered' - well, I wasn't being romantically flirty since that's the last fucking thing I want (short story if you didn't pick it up elsewhere: John 2 dumped me before Xmas) and we were meeting 'just for a chat' remember? So I thought he might be OK with that.
So why the oddness like I had some disease or something? Grr. Then again, I learned from the J2 experience that gay men are 99.999% fucked in the head, they say one thing (yes poly is fine, no I am not jealous, no I don't want you exclusively) and then proceed to do the exact opposite while still saying the same. The only person I know not to do this and whom I love even more now after all this is John 1, my long-suffering partner...he truly cares yet does not play those games...hence why in March it's 14 years, and other people are dust.
But hey I just want additional no-drama no-relationship no-weird-clinginess no-strings shags? Is that so fucking hard? Grr.
I do have a question though:
If you want to meet 'just for a pint' and not for a shag or romantic reasons, why would my partner be a reason to pull out of said meeting?
I find the strange attitude to partnered people on such sites odd...I mean Scruff like Gaydar (which can be equally weird) isn't called Lovey Fwuffy Wuffy Long Term Partnerkins, it's a site you go to for linking up with shags...or chats/friends. Happy with either...but boyfriend/partner material? Unlikely. So why the 'don't even talk to me unless you're single!' especially when my profile says 'Just here for fun' and also the above person contacted me...I hadn't put my partnered status on my profile yet, I'd just joined...and did so and alerted him to the fact cos he had something about 'if you're a romantic flirty type, don't be partnered' - well, I wasn't being romantically flirty since that's the last fucking thing I want (short story if you didn't pick it up elsewhere: John 2 dumped me before Xmas) and we were meeting 'just for a chat' remember? So I thought he might be OK with that.
So why the oddness like I had some disease or something? Grr. Then again, I learned from the J2 experience that gay men are 99.999% fucked in the head, they say one thing (yes poly is fine, no I am not jealous, no I don't want you exclusively) and then proceed to do the exact opposite while still saying the same. The only person I know not to do this and whom I love even more now after all this is John 1, my long-suffering partner...he truly cares yet does not play those games...hence why in March it's 14 years, and other people are dust.
But hey I just want additional no-drama no-relationship no-weird-clinginess no-strings shags? Is that so fucking hard? Grr.